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Many people have jobs and they are unhappy either with the work conditions or the paycheck and some do not have a job at all.  All these people would like to find a GOOD JOB OR BETTER JOB. I will outline for you how to do this.

In order to find that job you want you first have to find out WHO YOU ARE.  To do this make a list of all the positions and companies that you would like to work for.  Next write down any past job experience you have and the things you have done there.  This can be a summer job, family business  or just any other job or skill you have.  This will narrow down where you want to target your resumes toward.

One of the most important parts about finding a good job is the resume.  First impressions last and the resume is a company’s first impression of you. The resume itself should be proofread and be presented in a good format.  The first part of the resume should be the objective.  You can try and make the objective kind of general because you will probably use this resume alot of different places.  Your objective should include positive things like you want to learn on the job and help the company get better.

Not everyone is a 4.0 student so the education part of the resume may be easier for some than others.  If you do have great grades then show them off, clearly state your GPA.  However if you do not then just put the dates you attended the school and that you graduated.  Inclusion in certain school clubs will help your resume also any special certificates will boost your employment chances. Computers are important in most jobs now so it would help if you have knowledge of Microsoft Office and any other business programs would also help your chances.

The main part of your resume is work experience.  If you have alot of work experience try and condense it down to the 3 or 4 jobs you stayed on the longest and the ones you would get the best reference from.  Having alot of jobs all for a short period of time will hurt your chances because they will feel you can’t keep a job.  Think back to your former jobs and find a way to make your duties sound important without lying.  An example is you worked in a store and you counted all deliveries and stock.  Saying that you did the work of an inventory clerk will be truthful and sounds good.  Try and keep any job duties to short bullet points because you can go in depth at the interview.  Try and include mostly skills that could be used in another job.

A cover letter is something that usually accompanies a resume.  It can be seen as a more comprehensive look at your resume.  It may go more in depth in the different tasks you had in past jobs and how it can help you in the future.  Most importantly it should talk about your transferable skills; those skills that are not job specific and important on all jobs.  These include being on time, working well with others, responsibility, honesty and completing work in a timely matter.

If you are one of the lucky ones that get an interview be prepared to put on a show.  First off dress is very important, try not to have colours on that are too loud.  You want to ensure you are very neat and dress appropriately for the situation. Maintaining eye contact is important when talking to the interviewer.  Honesty is very important in an interview if you lie and get hired if they find out you lied they have grounds to fire you.  Prepare beforehand if you were fired for something bad be prepared to answer questions about it and say what you learned.  It is good to search online for the position you are seeking because you can find some practice questions the interviewer might ask.  Make sure stay friendly through the meeting and look excited to work there.

Lastly I was naive in thinking that the best person gets the job and that is not true.  You must use any advantage you can than is legal to get the job.  If you are beautiful person and think it might help include a passport picture when submitting your resume.  If you know someone in the company who may have some power; whether they go to your church, live nearby or family try and get them to help your chances.



Posted by on December 28, 2013 in BLOG POSTS


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When people mention “The One” besides from thinking of the movie we usually think of that right partner in our lives.  There is a claim that there is someone for everyone somewhere in the world.  Well since there is almost 7 billion people in a world with many different languages it is hard to believe that there is just one person who is right for you. What you can thrive for however is finding THE ONE out of the ones you meet who is best for you.

Settling…. is something we do in our personal life and our professional life it is not just about relationships.  When we go into a fast food restaurant and order a Coke and they say they are out then we settle for a Pepsi.  We don’t hate Pepsi but we prefer Coke but above all we want to quench our thirst. In this case it is impractical to wait until we can find a Coke soda but when it comes to relationships its best not to jump at the first alternative we are given.  Patience is a quality that many of us lack.  That is why in relationships we often get the Pepsi or even the Ginger Ale because we are not patient enough to get the Coke.  The thing about settling is it is sometimes better than getting what we really want.  You may want that Coke soda really bad even though you know the upset stomach it gives you later that night.  The Ginger ale however may be much gentler on your stomach although its taste is not the same as the Coke.  So that same person you see as being THE ONE may cause you so much physical and mental pain that settling is the best thing for you.

Decision making. YOU are in control of your heart so when you make a decision you have to stick with it… for your sake and for those you care about.  You cannot open up your heart to someone else if you are crazy in love with someone else you can’t have for some reason.  If you do this you run the risk of hurting a person that really cares about you.  Never rush into a decision about going into a long term relationship with someone because it can be disastrous if you are wrong.

What THE ONE should NOT be.  The one shouldn’t be the most beautiful or sexy person that you know.  These physical attributes please us visually but doesn’t make that person the right one. We shouldn’t base who we want to be with on who you can make the best looking children with.  The truth is as we age and other circumstances can cause looks to go away and then this person would no longer be so special.  This is not to say that you shouldn’t have a beautiful or sexy partner it just should not be your main criteria.  Part of the physical part of the relationship is sex and the person you are with and you should have a good sexual connection.  However you should not choose that person that has your eyes closed, fist clenched on the sheets, moaning and groaning at the top of your lungs during sex just based on this fact.  Money is also not a reason to believe a person is the right one for you.  Wealth is something that does not always last and when it goes away then what is left?

What THE ONE should be. This has to be the person you cannot live your life without.  Someone you wake up thinking of and go back to sleep thinking about.  That special one that always has your best interest at heart and rather be doing something boring with you than doing something exciting with someone else.  They can be your lover and your friend at the same time; who you can tell all your secrets to.  They have to be your world and you are their own.

In closing just choose your partner wisely because what may seem GOOD to you is not always BEST for you.

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Posted by on December 26, 2013 in BLOG POSTS, RELATIONSHIP POSTS


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The typical cry from alot of women is “Where are all the good men?” and that question can be answered in many ways depending on what you call a good man.  One of the biggest problem in women finding a good man is that they want too much from one man.  There is a popular picture of a skeleton looking out a window with the caption; waiting on the perfect man.  It is funny but in some cases true.

The first thing a woman needs to do to find a good man is not finding out what she needs but what she doesn’t need.  You may go to the food store and have $100 and the bill comes to $120.  Your only option is to put back some stuff and you decide this by the things that are less important to you.  Well in relationships a woman has to figure out the qualities that she needs in her man and not just what she wants.

Some women are more superficial and they want the amazing house, beautiful car, expensive trips and clothing. There are alot of independent women out there but if these are things she want from her man she has to accept certain things.  First off her man won’t have that much time to spend with her or a possible family because of the time he is spending making this money.  Her man also has more control over her because he knows she has to stay with him in order for her lifestyle to continue.  This kind of woman will have to accept that this man will have other women also because of his wealth.

There are some women who are more attracted to the physical aspect of a man.  Some like the color of a man, the good hair and good looks.  Other go crazy over the body or what a man can do for them in the bedroom.  Again if the man is very attractive or good in bed there is a good chance she is not the only woman that wants him or has him.  So a woman who needs a man like this has to be able to handle the cheating factor because it comes with the territory.

Security is an important quality to a woman also, so some women have to have a guy she feels safe with.  Often this guy who makes her feel safe has a little bit or alot of bad boy to him.  With the bad boy she runs the risk of being abused both physically and mentally.  The bad boy usually is a cheater too who is extremely jealous.

It has to be noted first off it is true that a good man is hard to find just as a good woman is hard to find.  It is hard to find all of the qualities we seek in one person.  Lyfe Jennings has a song called statistics that basically says only 10% of men are worth being in a relationship with.  The first obstacle in finding a good man is the statistics are against women.  There are more women then men and some men are gay so not every woman can have their OWN MAN.

So step 1 is finding a man who is not married, engaged or in a relationship.  Avant’s song Lie about us said it all when it comes to wanting a man who is married.  They can promise all day but the fact is if they don’t leave their wife in the 1st year you met him it’s a low chance of it happening.  There are easy ways to find out if a man is married or in a relationship.  One of them is he doesn’t want to go out in public with you because he doesn’t want to be caught. He is not available when you want him because he is in a next relationship.  He does not want to take any pics with you because he can’t be seen with you.  He doesn’t introduce you to any of his family of friends.  Once you have found a man who is single it’s time to move on top step 2.

Step 2 is weighing your options.  Find a guy that has more of the qualities you like than those you don’t like.  Everyone has their bad habits but make sure he doesn’t have too many bad and not enough good.  Make sure your guy is really into you.  If you are very pretty, have big breast or a big booty make him work for awhile to get it.  If you see him begin to distance from you because he is not getting it yet then you know he is more into your body.  You have to make sure that you like being around this guy. Yes he may have physical qualities or a very nice guy but if you do not enjoy his company it will never work.

Step 3 is compromise.  Your guy doesn’t have to be the most attractive but you have to be in some way attracted to him for it to work.  Honesty is an important part of any relationship and this quality shouldn’t be compromised.  The character of a man is important. Just because your guy won’t go and beat up a guy because he looked at you hard doesn’t mean you should pass on him.  Some guys will not have that rugged bad boy character but they will treat you good and in the end that is important.  Finance are also important while you don’t have to be with a guy with a million dollars you should find a man that helps take care of you. There is nothing wrong with starting off with a man who is not making much money once that man has a plan for the future that make sense. DO NOT fall for a dreamer who has alot of big plans to be rich but currently only has $5 in the bank.

Step 4 is not to be rushed.  Alot of women marry or are in relationships for the wrong reason.  Their mother or women in their family say you are older now you need to be married.  A woman sees all of her friends getting married and feels jealous and left out.  Some women cannot stand to be alone so they are anxious to get into a relationship.  Now again I am not saying wait for perfect  but wait awhile for GOOD because you do not want to be in a relationship and you are not happy.

Step 5 is not overlooking good men.  Alot of women have that male friend that they absolutely adore but they have FRIEND ZONED HIM. They designate that he can only be friends with her and alot of times they know the guy is attracted to them.  Truth is what would be better than being with a person who is also your best friend.  They often say “Why my BF can’t be good like you” and the truth is he could be.

In closing one of the main downfalls of women when choosing a man is planning to change him. People can change but it was once said we develop our personalities by age 6 so the phrase can’t teach a old dog new tricks is relevant.  The truth is some women are not ready for a relationship should they shouldn’t even be seeking one.  However for those who are I hope this helped.


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Posted by on December 25, 2013 in BLOG POSTS, RELATIONSHIP POSTS


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